“Malam-malam baiko yo mamak, malam malam bainai yo sayang, anak daro yo mamak jo marapulai”
Those sort lyrics is part of popular minangkabau song entitled Malam Bainai which illustrate a fragment of traditional wedding in Minangkabau. And Manjapuik Marapulai-theme that I more interest about :)-also being a part of this wedding celebration.
Literally “Malam Bainai” means night using Inai, an annual plant belong to impatiens species (Garden Balsam) that usually used by the girl to coloring their hands and nails. And this term already reflected its ritual, in practice. In this such night, the bride, we called her “Anak Daro”, has her hand painted and colored by this natural dye. Particularly we use the finished compound product from balsam as the main ingredients in pasta or cream form.
Malam bainai usually takes places before ‘Basandiang’ held in next day for this whole celebration. The term ‘Basandiang’ is the climax of wedding reception when-like another modern wedding ceremonial-the groom and bride sit aside, become king and queen for a day, and placed in display :). But before Basandiang, the groom has to be “shuttled” first. This shuttled ceremonial is known as “Manjapuik Marapulai”
In general, the wedding always celebrate in woman residence. But before “Manjapuik Marapulai” had been conducted, the guest won’t able to see both the groom and the bride altogether. How this could be? Let’s we take a look about matrilinier culture first.
The one basic principle of matrilinier culture in Minangkabau is: when a man going to marry a woman, that the married man, would move to woman residence. He should to adopt the habit of the family of his wife and places himself between them, and called his wife residence as home. In instant, He will be the head of the family and also has to live within her wife society. This symbolize by “Manjapuik Marapulai” ceremony. A symbolic culture that held before he left his family, his parents,and his society, and shuttled by his bride party. He left his old home, paraded in traditional costume through all around village-followed by the sound from talempong-a Minangkabau traditional instrument, and stop at the bride residence in the end. This is called “Manjapuik Marapulai” which literally translated as “Shuttled the Groom”.
In more traditional culture, when the group arrive in the woman residence, where the big celebration had been held, the groom and his family welcomed by traditional ceremony that involved custom speech and poetry. Later they would served with Minangkabau dishes (just imagine all the best of Minangkabau/Padang restaurant’s menus in a place and in big serve (ˆڡˆ) !!), together with the bride family. Sometimes also followed by “Batagak Gala” an other traditional ceremony. And sometimes also added by Minangkabau subculture tradition. Like “a groom suitcase” form.
After Manjapuik Marapulai finished, the “Marapulai” aka groom, arrive, and the couple begin to “Basandiang” . The guest come, fulfill the invitation, photo taken, cheer for them. Hey, this the reception!! \(^▿^)/*. And they finally found they HEA (as that Should to end:)). The end.*deepbreath 🙂
In modern Minangkabau wedding ceremony, especially in the urban area,this fragment has been left or cut for shortened. Despite of its subtly, time consuming, and high cost, this complete ceremony, still could found in some traditional village. Unique and heartwarming:).